The art of juggling: being a MOM and a CEO
I went back to work when Kvido was 2,5 half months old. I was still breastfeeding (partially) and my work days were planned in three hour blocks. I fed Kvido before going to work, drove to a meeting where I knew I had exactly 2 hours and 45 minutes, then I drove back home to feed Kvido again, then back to work for another 2 hours and 45 minutes and then again back home. Yup, the beginning was pretty wild.
I always knew that once I have a child/ children I will be a working mom. I LOVE what I do and I knew that I will not want to stop doing what I love.
A lot of people told me that I will change my opinion once I have the “bundle of joy” in my arms. I knew I won’t but people did not believe me.
Well, I was right. I didn’t change my opinion.
I love Kvido, my son. He is the biggest love I have ever had. Actually I never even imagined that you could love someone so much. And I still love my job. I work as a CEO in an amazing company operating hotels and hostels (click HERE if you want to learn more about us), surrounded by brilliant talented and like minded people.
I believe that being a working mom makes me a better mom to my son.
I absolutely and endlessly love my son but I also need some time away from him. I need time away from nappies, “what do cows do” talk and ensuring he is not trying to eat all the things he shouldn’t and that he’s not trying to kill himself falling from stairs/ chairs/ tables and other high objects around him constantly.
I have a super active child who also thinks that sleep is a waste of time and you really need all the patience and energy in the world when you are with him.
Going to work allows me to replenish my patience and energy levels to keep up with him. I love coming back home after a work day to his excited smile and happy face but I also enjoy waving goodbye to him when I go to work.
I also believe that being a working mom makes me a better CEO.
I am super privileged to have a job and a position that allows me the flexibility to be able to work part time. I officially work 3 days per week. This means that I try to spend at least 2,5 days in our BoHo HUB (central office) and/ or in our properties and then I work pretty much every evening at home.
Working part time and having very precise deadlines when I need to leave work (no more staying till 9 pm) has taught me to be super productive during my work time. In fact, I am convinced that nowadays I manage to get “more things done” in the 3 days than I did when I worked full time. Working part time has taught me to delegate even more than I have ever done, it does not give me even a slight chance to micro manage and it really does not let me procrastinate or getting bobbed down into little tiny details.
Sounds iddylic, doesn’t it? But believe me it really is not.
Being a working mom is the finest juggling act I have ever done.
There are days when I feel that I have it all figured out and I have the best balance one could ever have but then there are also days when I am physically drowning under work tasks and self doubt and I am wondering if I did not take a bite a bit too big for me to chew. Usually these days are the days when I get a very little sleep at night and I am over tired. I have learned to accept that these feeling are absolutely okay and normal. There are better days and there are worse days and the art of juggling is to ensure that I have more better days than the worse days and that the worse days don’t drag me down. Because this is life. Life is never perfect.
I have developed a couple of rules for myself to ensure that I am the best I can be when “being a mom” and also when “being a CEO”.
- Be present.
When I am with Kvido, I AM with Kvido. I do respond to the occasional email but only when he is sleeping or well into playing by himself. And the same goes for work. When I am at work, I AM at work not only with my body but mainly with my mind.
- Be ready for change.
When you have a little child you have to be ready to change your plans in a second. I had to cancel meetings because Kvido was ill, postpone meetings because he fell asleep exactly at the time when my alarm clock started telling me it’s time to get up and go to work. Before I had Kvido I used to get annoyed when things did not go according to plan, now I’ve learned to accept it, embrace the change and immediately look for an alternative way. It helped me to always have an alternative scenario ready.
- Take care of ME.
The only way how I can be a good mom and a good CEO is when I am feeling good. Both physically and mentally. If you are following me on Instagram or facebook then you probably know that I started running again and I am trying to train for a marathon. I love running. For me this it THE time when I can switch off and “just be”. I am also trying to learn to meditate – a few minutes per day to help to clear my mind. And yes. I try to sleep whenever I can. Sleep deprivation is an awful awful thing.
I know there are people who truly believe that moms should be with their kids all the time and that it is really important for kid’s development.
I believe that every child is different, just as every mom is different and that “we moms” know exactly what is the best thing for our babies. Because the ultimate truth is that a child is happy when he/ she has a happy mom and that we all should be doing what we feel is the best for us and for our kids.
I also realize that some people do not have the luxury of choice which makes me even more thankful for how privileged I am.
What is your opinion? Working mom. Good thing or not?
Do you have kids? When did you go back to work?
All you working moms: how do you juggle?
P.S. Who looks after Kvido when I am at work? My mom. When I got pregnant we made a deal. My mom will not go back to work and she will babysit Kvido and we will pay her. It has been one of the best decisions I have ever done. My mom is the grandma I always wanted and never had. She is truly amazing. I know that when Kvido is with her, he is happy and loved and I can fully concentrate at work not worrying about what is happening at home.
P.P.S. I am well aware that not every company and not every position offers part time jobs for (not only) “moms” and I wish that the news of “moms being great employees” spread more widely across the world that and there will be more part time “mom friendly” jobs around the globe.
P.P.P.S. At the end of September/ beginning of October I will travel for work for a week. I love being a way from Kvido for a night. I miss him when I am away for 2 nights. How will I cope 7 nights away?! Right now I really cannot imagine it… let’s see.
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